Puberty is another peak of a child's life curve, which will change greatly physically and psychologically, which will bring some confusion and annoyance. As a parent, what knowledge should you tell your children and how can you help them get through puberty healthily?
How to make children go through puberty healthily
1. After the child is born, no matter what the gender is, the choice of name, dress and daily necessities should not be confused, lest the child form a sexual hazy consciousness to himself and others from an early age, thus affecting the child's sexual orientation.
2. When children can understand language, parents should carry out sex education throughout their daily life, such as bathing, dressing, hairstyle and toy choices. Children can also be guided to observe the growth and reproduction of animals and plants through books and newspapers, picture albums, film and television, and storytelling, so that children can have a natural understanding of reproduction, so that they can accept nature, love human beings, and understand the nature of life. so that sexual self-recognition can be accomplished.
3. Free exploration of one's own body is a good beginning of healthy sex education. In family life, parents should choose the right time, such as taking a bath, before going to bed, etc., to naturally let their children know their bodies, especially to let their children realize that their reproductive organs are as mysterious as other organs of the human body. and guide children to keep themselves clean and develop good hygiene habits.
4. When children ask questions about sex, parents should not avoid them, but should answer them in words and ways that their children can understand and accept, so that their curiosity and curiosity can be solved and satisfied.
5. The problems often encountered should be properly understood. For example, how are people born? We can start from the flowering and fruiting of plants, and then relate to human sex and reproduction
male chastity , or we can make an exemplary analogy from the reproductive activities of animals. A simple introduction to the physiology of human reproduction will help children understand the problem. Sex education should not only be truthful, but not too complicated; it should not only encourage children's curiosity, but also naturally delay understanding of some specific details into their future lives.
6. The model of parents' own behavior is also very important. Sincere, harmonious and moral feelings between parents, to set a good example for children, will make children love life, love life, correctly deal with sexual problems.
The misunderstanding of children's family sex education should be understood.
At present, the current situation of children's early sex education in China is not optimistic. It is not difficult to find that there are many misunderstandings, which are mainly summarized as the misunderstanding of the concept of sex education and the misunderstanding of the object of sex education.
(1) misunderstanding of the concept of sex education
The so-called concept of sex education is the view on the necessity of sex education, the role of sex education and how to carry out sex education. Due to the influence of traditional feudal thought for a long time, our country has misunderstandings in the concept of sex education, which roughly includes the following types: insisting on self-taught theory
kick ass , ignorant blind obedience theory and inducement theory.
① insists on the self-taught theory because parents lack awareness of the importance of early sex education for their children. In real life, many parents think that sex education is irrelevant, especially that it is not necessary for children to carry out sex education before puberty. Later, with the increase of age and the accumulation of knowledge, they will naturally learn the basic knowledge of physical health. When you grow up, you can learn without a teacher or come naturally. The reason is that if you tell them in advance, it will form a strong sexual stimulation and stimulate children's curiosity about sexual issues, so they simply turn a deaf ear and let nature take its course.
② pursues the theory of ignorance and blind obedience because parents are not sure about the contents and methods of children's sex education. In life, there are other parents who have encountered sexual problems in their children's growth and have realized that sex education is an urgent problem to be solved, but because of the dignity or arrogance of adults, they are ashamed to communicate with their children. I feel embarrassed and at a loss in the face of the child's questions. There are also some parents who use deceptive means to prevaricate things by fabricating stories against science, and even reprimand, beat and scold their children indiscriminately, which will make the confused children even more at a loss.
③ inducement theory, that is, that sex education will cause sexual stimulation, but the imparting of sexual knowledge will induce children to appear precocious sexual problems. Throughout the situation of sex education in different countries, although the contents and methods of sex education in different countries are different due to different social and cultural backgrounds, they have achieved good results. For example, in Sweden
finger vibrator , where sex education was carried out earlier, there was a set of systematic and complete educational content and system from kindergarten to senior high school, which achieved good results. This shows that sex education not only does not induce problems, but plays a role in curbing sex crimes. At the same time, we should also see that there is an essential difference between sex education and sexual stimulation. To quote Dr. Lei Wan of the United States: "there is a big distance between the writing of sex education and the obscene text, and the obscene text is an unnecessary emotional description pretending to appeal to lust." The words of sex education appeal to reason, are objective and calm, and only tell you the scientific facts that you must know. Reading the words of sex education makes people quiet and sober, knowing the attitude they should take and the direction they should go. "
(2) misunderstandings in the object of sex education
Some people think that sex education is puberty education, and the object of sex education is only teenagers who enter the period of puberty, which is actually a misunderstanding on the object of sex education. Dr. Mary Calder, president of the American Council for Sex Information and Sex Education, believes that the most important and effective period for sex education may be before the age of 14, especially before the age of 5. The cultivation and education of "sex" received during this period will undoubtedly determine all aspects of "sex" for children, adolescents and later in life. In fact, the patients with "heterosexuality" and "homosexuality" in adult sexual metamorphosis cannot correctly identify with their own gender. The individual's "sex" in biology may not always be consistent with his "gender" in psychology and sociology. Only individuals regard themselves as men or women, and their behavior conforms to their own "gender identity". Is gender identity. "heterosexuality" and "homosexuality" appear abnormal phenomena in gender identity, such as gender role disorder or gender role inversion, which is often caused by the poor parenting attitudes, styles and expectations of parents and others in the course of childhood. Therefore, sex education for teenagers should begin from early childhood, from infants and young children to adolescents, focusing on achieving the biological and social understanding of "gender". To form correct gender roles and sexual adaptation during adolescence and other educational goals, to carry out different contents of sex education for children of different ages.
In short, the existence of misunderstandings in sex education will directly affect the effect of children's early sex education, and may also form a sense of shame, disgust, and even guilt, leading to sexual psychological abnormalities in adults. Thus it can be seen that for the sake of children's present and future, parents must get out of the misunderstanding of sex education as soon as possible, establish a correct concept of children's sex education, correctly treat children's sexual psychological needs, and carry out scientific, appropriate and effective sexual health education.
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